Great relationships grow around what we choose to hold in common.
We may share the same goals, the same vision, the same Lord, the same stage in life. “Partnering” situations draw us together. Great relationships share responsibilities. It’s not one person carrying the load, it’s not one person contributing all the energy, it’s a shared burden – a distributed load. The greater the sense of partnership, the greater the sense of shared vision. Friendships thrive in a cooperative endeavor.
Watch sailors in troubled seas; no one has to say a thing. Everybody works as one to get the job done. Friends will help you through the storm. Acquaintances will simply offer advice. Friends will give you their strength. Acquaintances will offer their insights. Friends don’t hesitate to get their hands dirty. Acquaintances will point out how dirty your hands are. Paul enjoyed a growing relationship with the church in Philippi based on gratitude, joy, and partnership.
Maybe you are wasting your time trying to build a relationship with someone who does not share your vision. Maybe you are pursuing a potential mate who does not share your core values. Stop now! To proceed is to insure frustration.